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I am Fat

I am fat

I am fat

I am fat.

I’m not entirely sure how I now manage to weigh 2 stone more then my pre-ttc weight. The last stone has crept on after I had my son, in fact that last stone crept on in the last 3/4 months.

My arms look like the Michelin Man, and I look like I’ve swallowed a duvet.

I am not a pretty sight. Luckily I’m not at the stage where I have to buy a new wardrobe to accommodate my ever increasing thighs, but I’m ever so close.

To top it all off, I do not feel very good, neither health-wise, nor mood-wise. After  my failed IVF I decided that enough is enough. So I contacted Kelly from Fit not Thin @FitNotThin.

Initially, I was convinced my expanding stomach was due to damaged muscles due to carrying a baby, but given that I gave birth to him nearly 2 years ago, cant really hide behind that tired old excuse, can I!? And Kelly confirmed that there is not much wrong with my actual stomach muscles. Although, she could be wrong, she had to press down through an awful lot of fat to reach them, that’s for sure!

So here’s what’s happening, I am no longer eating cake. I am not eating carbs. I am eating salad. Lots of salad.

I see Kelly 2/3 per month. The sessions are excellent and all about weights and using the vibrating machines at the Re-vitalise Studio in Hove. I’m really loving it.

Sadly, I have also discovered a correlation between my coffee consumption and weight gain, i.e. the more coffee I drink, the more weight I gain.

Goddammit, no coffee, no fags and no cake.






Falling Naturally Pregnant After IVF Treatment

Those who read this blog will know that I’m on the quest to fall pregnant naturally after my 3 rounds of IVF. It would seem strange that I, having gone through so much fertility treatment and so many years of trying to get pregnant without success, would still hold out hope that one day I will miss my period and take that pregnancy test, and it be positive.

In fact if anyone dare say to me that this might happen, I get seriously annoyed. But you can’t stop a girl from hoping!

I met some amazing women on this journey, especially my wonderful cycle buddies from the ARGC. One of them is now naturally pregnant. And this is her story.

 What is your story? What led you to the IVF route for conception?

We got married in 2008 and decided we wanted a family straight away so we started trying in November 2008. I was pregnant by the February which we were over the moon about but unfortunately when I went for my 12 week scan the baby had died at 6 weeks so I had a missed miscarriage as I didn’t bleed or anything we were devastated we started trying again around June but nothing was happening, so in March 2010 I went for acupuncture and was really pleased that the next month I found out I was pregnant. We had a six week scan and all was good, so the next scan was at 12 weeks. At around 11 weeks I had a sharp pain in my left side and went into a panic so phoned the hospital and a day later had a scan to find out the baby had died at 91/2 weeks again another missed miscarriage we were devastated we then went privately for investigation and everything came back normal so we started trying again and by Christmas I still hadn’t got pregnant do I went again to see my doctor and he suggested IVF  as I was now 37 nearing 38 I was again in shock petrified and devastated as I thought I was fertile … When I went to see a consultant he referred me to Liverpool but because ‘ there was nothing wrong with me ‘ hey put me on a year’s waiting list so I would be nearing 39 so I went into a state of panic !! During this time I was talking, texting and emailing my cousin frantically as she is an embryologist and she told me about where she worked and that they deal with  your immune system and your natural killer cells and she thought it would be a good idea to get them tested that’s how I came to use ARGC

I  went down to the ARGC in the May for my initial consultation and I started the monitoring cycle days later as I was at the right time in my cycle and I started down regulating three  weeks later !! Things moved really fast I had my natural killer test done during this time too and surprise, it was through the roof …

Did you try any alternative treatments or take any supplements to support reproductive wellness?

No I didn’t take any other supplements apart from pregnacare duo (the one with the fish oils too) but I did cut out caffeine and aspartame but I have to say I did still keep having a little chocolate

Tell me a bit about your treatment and what your IVF experience was like.

I started down regulating on June 4th, two weeks later I moved to my cousins in London so that I was close to ARGC as you have to be in the morning at 730/8 and I would never have got there from my home in Wales.

Two weeks later I had a scan to see how the down regulating was going and all was good except they found a endometriosis cyst on my left ovary which need to before they could start treatment so the next day I was booked in for a hysteroscopy and my cyst aspiration then on that evening I ‘ got the call ‘ to start injecting, this lasted for approximately 10-12 days then I had to ‘ coast ‘ for two days as my ovaries were over stimulating the cure was to drink four litres of water a day plus my litre of milk – was on the loo loads then I had another scan and ‘ got the call’ to take my pregnyl, then two days later they collected my eggs. I had 26 eggs and as we were having ICSI they called me the next day to say 13 had fertilised which is good. I went to day 5 blasts and had two put back and was so lucky to have two blasts frozen too.

How long after your IVF baby did you find out you were pregnant?

I gave up breast feeding when my daughter was 5 1/2 months   I found out I was pregnant six weeks later.

How long had you been trying for?

This was the first month of trying

What was your reaction?

We were both shocked – still are! The initial reaction was sheer joy and happiness then I went into complete worry and panic as I knew my killer cells were really bad during my pregnancy with Chloe as I had to have IVIG right up until I was 30 weeks pregnant, so I phoned ARGC straight away and they saw me the next day. They started me on clexane, cyclogest, aspirin and told me to get gestone and prednisolone. They monitored my hcg levels and progesterone levels every other day till I got a heart beat at 6 1/2 weeks I was then told to take gestone but as my NK test had come back normal I didn’t need to take prednisolone at the moment I had my NK cells tested a month later and they were normal and then a month later again and they came back normal and no further testing needed wow wee I can’t believe it!

How do you feel about having paid for IVF and are now naturally pregnant?

I feel that if I haven’t have gone to ARGC, that this pregnancy would never have happened to me and that paying for my first cycle of IVF resulted in our little miracle baby girl and I would never regret any penny spent. She is our world and ARGC have supported us in this pregnancy equally even though it’s a natural pregnancy which again is a miracle and we both feel truly blessed and thankful we heard about Mr Taranissi and the ARGC

What are you going to do with your frozen embryos?

I honestly don’t know what we are going to do with our frozen embryos

Do you have any words of wisdom for those struggling with infertility?

All I can say is, I put all my trust and faith in Mr T and I did everything he suggested or advised without questioning it. I stayed very very positive throughout my treatment and I kept myself to myself apart from a handful of friends that I’m still in contact with now and without their support wouldn’t have been so positive. Try to stay away from waiting room negativity and chat rooms as they will only bring you down and make you worry listen to the nurses and doctors they are honest they will tell you if there is a problem but the girls in the waiting room don’t know your history, so please don’t listen to anyone else and believe me I never thought it would happen for me and it did!!

Are there any differences between your IVF pregnancy and this one?

No the only difference to this pregnancy is the sickness till about 14 weeks and the tiredness is really bad but I think it’s because I have a 9 1/2 month old to run after and entertain now so I can’t sneak a sneaky sleep in the afternoon

As you can see everyone has a different story and there can still be hope after infertility. Maybe there is hope for me after all?

I would love to hear your story too.

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DHEA – supplemental plus catch up on my general fertility fun!

DHEA update……………….massive boil appeared on my back!! Dammit!

Still taking it though!

Missed Iyengar yoga this week, such a shame as really wanted to get there but I had to attend the birthday of my friends little boy Jack. He was 1. She is a PCOS sufferer but managed to have the baby without any intervention. How? I dont know how anyone else gets pregnant naturally. I’d love that feeling. I wondered what a missed period would be like, because for me it probably means I’ve actually hit the menopause, rather then I’m up the duff!! haha!

I’ve been recommended to try Royal Jelly, so thats what I’m going to do.

Did anyone see the stuff on December the 11 being the most fertile day for those in the UK and USA?? What do you think? Totally load of old rubbish or not??

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I’ve decided to start taking DHEA again. I took this before when I was trying to get pregnant. I took it in the 6 months prior to getting my positive pregnancy test.

Its an interesting one because the side effects were hideous! Terrible spots, and not just pimples, literally boils, all over my face, chest and back. When you are feeling horrible in general due to infertility, the last thing you want is to also look pretty horrible too. But there did seem to be good evidence of DHEA working well for those with knackered eggs! So that’s what made me continue to take it.

As I’m sure you will remember from my earlier post, my initial FSH result was 19.8. After taking DHEA, and on the month I went ahead with my third and successful round of IVF, it had been reduced to 7.1. Which is entirely normal.

So good news indeed. And it made all the boils worth while in the end.

It did increase my progesterone level (hence spots) as DHEA is a “mother hormone” and your body will convert it in to all sorts of different hormones, mine used it to create an excess of progesterone. High progesterone is not good when starting an IVF cycle, nor can I imagine would it be good if you were trying naturally. But 2 days after I stopped taking it my progesterone had gone back to normal levels. Therefore, a small price to pay for such a dramatic drop in my FSH levels and, what I’m assuming was an increase in my egg quality.

So I’ve started to take it again. But not in such a high dose. Cant handle those blasted spots that’s for sure.

I’ve been reading about Red Clover being beneficial to those “older woman” looking to conceive. Although I’m not yet 40, my eggs have surely aged badly, so I always like to read the literature with those over 40 in mind. Red Clover is in the tea that I am selling, and drinking. Have a look at my Facebook page for more info.


So, who else is taking DHEA or has experience taking it? Good or bad, I’d love to hear from you.

Iyengar Yoga

Today  I did an Iyengar Yoga class. I had read about it in the book Inconceivable. It was one of the many things the author did in order to get pregnant.

Luckily they run this class in my gym. I did enjoy it. It was good for stretching but I do struggle to see how a yoga class can help a persons fertility? Yes it was relaxing and nice to have a break from things, it just didn’t feel very dynamic. But here’s the thing. I’m still going to carry on going to this class. It certainly cannot do any harm that’s for sure! And maybe I’ll just get very bendy!?

The teacher was very interesting too.  A small, thin woman who barked out her instruction to the class. And made those not quite doing the pose right, re-set and do it over until they got it right! Not particularly Zen! Haha!

So that’s me for the day. Just waiting for the boiler man to come now – oooooh, the glamour!

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A brief history of my fertility fun

I thought I would write a post about all the “fun” I had whilst trying for a baby. A bit of a brief history. And I would love to hear from others who have been or are in the same boat as me with a similar diagnosis.

I had been on the pill since I was 18 when I got married at 31 so I stopped taking it then. My mother had struggled to have me for years so I always had a vague appreciation that getting pregnant may be a struggle for me too. It had taken mum, 5 years to have me but her fertility issue was that she was not ovulating. She had been given Clomid but not taken it I understand.

So I came off the pill and for about 4 months nothing happened. HAHA! How naive was I? I literally thought I may just get pregnant. You spend so many years trying not to get pregnant that you expect it to just happen. Familiar story anyone???

Its not in my nature to wait so I went to the doctors and told them we had been trying for a year and I had the standard tests done. When my FSH result came back it was 19.8 and the doctors said, and I do quote, “your hormones arent quite there yet”. I was referred to a most hideous doctor at the local hospital who laughed at me when I told  him what the GP had said, asked me if I was having hot flushes and told me that my only option was donor eggs. Basically I was menopausal.

EH??? I was only 31. I couldnt believe this was happening. And it was at that point I refused to accept that diagnosis.

I had my first and second IVF attempt locally. They were shambolic to say the very least. And my last IVF at the wonderful ARGC in London, who I cannot fault. Not least because they gave me my son but the whole experience was excellent.

During the 4 years it took to get pregnant I tried every trick in the fertility book!! Anything to make those eggs just a bit better quality. Supplements I took:

Dong Quai, Black Cohorst, Agnus Castus, Flaxseed oil, Wheatgrass, multi vits, Zita West vits, DHEA, Chia seeds, Maca, millions of different herbal teas (hence why I am selling a brand with all I drunk combined in one tea bag, see my website http://www.assistfertility.co.uk)

The list was endless, I would read everything I could on the issue and do anything the “experts” advised! I had accupuncture, reflexology, sacral cranial therapy, pilates and Yoga. Phew!  I was a busy girl!

It was so totally worth it though!

So thats a little bit about the journey. And now I’m back to roller coaster. Trying naturally for a bit at first. Lets see what happens!