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Smoking Preggos

Last night I went to the pub. The whole place was heaving with families and pregnant women.

I felt completely surrounded by those lucky, happy preggos.

Some of them were smoking. SMOKING!!!!

I was so upset, I actually cried. Granted I’d had a couple of sherry’s by that point, but seriously, HOW CAN THEY DO THAT TO THEIR BABIES???? How?

So I cried out of anger and frustration and jealousy.

One of the preggos asked me if her smoking had upset me? And I said no. How could I get into an argument about this in public? How can I explain to her that I will never, ever be as blessed and as lucky as she is right now, without sounding like I’m completely barmy?

I tried to explain how I felt to my friend, who just kept saying how lucky I am to have had my son, and yes, I know I am lucky, and more thankful then you could ever imagine, but I’m sad for me and I’m sad for a future that will never exist. But most of all I am sad for my little boy, because I feel like I’ve failed him.

Anyway, this walking away from TTC is much harder then I thought.

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Reflexology

 

A few weeks ago I attended an event for mums called “Big Sunday” www.bigsunday.co.uk

 Its brilliant and gave me the opportunity to do loads of lovely things like, Yoga and pilates but I also had reflexology by the wonderful @Lunatreatments.

It was only for 20 minutes but I remembered why I loved reflexology in the first place and wondered why I had stopped going? I used to go every couple of weeks when I first started trying for a baby 6 long years ago.

So I booked another appointment and went to see Selina at Gingko in Kemp Town last week for the full hour!

Even though I am no longer trying for a baby, there are benefits in having reflexology for fertility purposes:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-20980/Is-reflexology-new-cure-infertility.html

Ok, ok! Not the most scientific of articles, but you get the picture!

Have a look at this article for more info:

http://www.naturaltherapypages.co.uk/article/reflexology_for_fertility

Anyway, I loved it! Such a nice treatment, really relaxing and I had some much needed alone time! Its great to just lie back and relax. Something I never, ever do.

Selina picked up my lazy left ovary – amazing!

If you want a bit of “quiet from the crazy”, I would recommend this. Its good to be kind to yourself. Something us IF ladies never do.

I also booked a session for my husband. I really hope he loves it too!

If you are in Brighton, check out http://lunatreatments.co.uk/

Podcasts

Now that I am no longer going through any fertility treatments etc, and I am off work at the moment, I have been able to spend the last two weeks hitting the gym, which I love.

I’m not listening to music during my gym work out, I’m listening to podcasts. I’m really enjoying this and find it way more interesting and education then listening to music.

I wanted to share with you 3 podcasts that I am currently enjoying and that I feel are really good.

 

“The Jillian Michaels Show”

She is an American health and fitness guru (you might have seen her on he tv). She talks about fitness, training, health and happiness.

 

“Patrick Holford Food is Medicine”

This podcast gives info on what to eat and how to supplement. Lots of good, healthy tips and advice.

 

“How Einstein would get pregnant”

Blog series by the creator of Circle and Bloom. This podcast looks at mind-brain-body connections. Really interested in this as I’ve always been dubious as to this connection.

All 3 are great and really interesting as I’m getting more interested in health and fitness.

Do you have any interesting Podcasts you want to share with me?

 

 

Fertility Massage

A couple of weeks ago I went and had a fertility  massage. It was a first for me. I have done lots of complimentary treatments for fertility, but a massage was a first.

What had led me to fertility massage?  A conversation I had with a lovely lady who runs a baby group I’ve taken my son to. She told me she had been diagnosed with infertility issues and had managed to conceive naturally by having acupuncture, fertility massage and doing fertility yoga.

I went to see Jo Kellett who works from home and is fairly local to me, here in Brighton.

She lives in a lovely part of Brighton and her home is beautiful!

I was with her for over an hour in total. We started the session by going through my fertility issues and what I wanted to achieve from the session. And then the actual massage started.

I’ve only ever had a massage once and that was when I was pregnant. I must admit I found it all a bit awkward to be honest! But not so with Jo, she is wonderfully warm in personality and puts you very much at ease.

A part of the reason I went to see her was because my period had gone AWOL. I am a very regular 26 day kinda girl but this was day 33. Not hugely late, but a first for me. Obviously I immediately start thinking its the menopause! Anyway, hey presto, my period started the morning after seeing Jo!

A coincidence? I think not!

After the session has concluded, Jo sent me away with a bottle of my own personally blended massage oil – a mixture of rose, damiana and grapefruit. Its beautiful stuff and I massage it into my belly nightly!

Overall, an excellent and highly beneficial experience. I can totally recommend he services to you!

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Hormones

I’m fairly sure my hormones are all over the place at the moment. What makes me say this is that I have spots! On my chin and on my back and its not from the DHEA as I haven’t been taking it recently. Plus I have definitely had some angry moments recently. (mostly aimed at my poor husband).

If my hormones aren’t “right”, then I doubt my baby making capability is 100%. In fact I’m certain that if my hormones are functioning properly, I’ll never make a baby without the aid of IVF.

This is what I am doing to try and correct this problem.

  •  I have cut out caffeine
  • I have stopped eating wheat and any “white food” – I’m trying to lower my gluten as I’ve heard good things about gluten free diets or at least low GI diets
  • I’m not having any artificial sweeteners – aspartame is now banned in the US, so that cant be good
  • I’ve started taking Wheatgrass juice again
  • Agnus Castus
  • Vitamin B supplement
  • Evening primrose oil
  • Fertility Tea – it contains Red Raspberry to regulate menstrual cycle (mine has been all over the place recently – uh oh – is that the menopause looming????!!!)

 I am also exercising. I just feel that if I can make my body as healthy as I can, then things might start to work properly.

I have also been helping a friend who might have PCOS. I really think going on a PCOS diet could be really beneficial for her.

 I’ve also started listening to the Zita West CD. Its very relaxing and I hope that its doing some good. My FSH has always been bad but recent tests have suggested its ok. The Zita West CD talks about optimal amounts of hormones being released. Hope its doing me some good.

What more can I do to balance my hormones? Any idea, tips or tricks, let me know!

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Hypnotherapy at the Zita West Clinic

I was lucky enough to attend a session of hypnotherapy with Zita West’s practitioner, Maureen at the Clinic in London.

It’s a first for me, having never done anything like his before, so I really didn’t know what to expect.

I arrived at the lovely clinic and was only kept waiting for a few minutes before being whisked to the very top of the building by Maureen, where we talked about my situation. I loved the way she spoke. Really such a positive person and we also talked about her family too.

We talked about some of the negative thoughts I have about trying naturally for baby number 2, my negative feelings about my own body, and my fear of letting my place of work down by having another baby. She really did help me “re-frame” some of my negativity and put a more positive spin on it.

Then the hypnotherapy session started. I lay back on the reclining chair and she began to speak. It was very much like you see on the TV, designed to make you relax but not at any point did I feel I was not in control of my body, my thoughts or my actions.

She set a wonderful scene. I was to imagine myself on a beach surrounded by lovely greenery and a bright sunny day. The session was focused on relaxing and using counting and imagery to do so. When I think back to the day I get a really strong imagine in my mind and its fantastic! It truly does help me feel less anxious and more relaxed.

The actual hypnotherapy last for approximately 20 minutes.

I enjoyed it very much, however, I can see that you would need a number of sessions to really benefit. I really felt very positive when leaving the clinic.The session also gave me some “self hypnosis” tools. When I think about it, it helps me relax and feel less stressed about the whole baby situation.

All in all, its was a fantastic experience, but I think I need to do it a few more times.

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Zita West Clinic

Last week I met with THE Zita West at the Zita West Clinic in London.

I had responded to a shout out on her Facebook page. She was looking for a couple who would be happy to have a consultation filmed for a pilot TV show she was doing. The consultation would be free and I was lucky enough that she chose me!

It was the first time I had been to the Zita West clinic, although I do take her vitamins.

Zita West is known for being a specialist in preconception, assisted fertility, pregnancy and post natal support. She has written books and been on the TV, most recently the “This Morning” Fertility week. She also has a large range of products, including, vitamins, relaxation CD’s and candles. Her clinic offers all sorts of therapies, including accupunture, nutritional reviews, the list is pretty long!

The clinic was very easy to find as its not far from the ARGC, where I had my last round of IVF.

The clinic is lovely! It’s bright and modern inside, and smelled amazing. Her candles were burning and are very lovely.

We weren’t kept waiting long and Zita herself came and met us in the waiting room.

She is very petite.really well groomed and lovely!

We were filmed having our consultation. Luckily I dont mind that sort of thing as I’ve done loads of public speaking in the past but I think my husband was slightly uncomfortable.

Zita looked at our history and did a stomach examination on me. Her conclusion was very positive. The biggest issue she found with me is that I lack a mind/body connection.

Basically, I have negative thoughts and feelings associated with my body and my reproductive area, and that I do not believe I will ever get pregnant naturally. I have no connection with my baby making parts! This negativity is due to the horrible first encounters I had with the NHS, who diagnosed me Menopausal at the age of 31. And my IVF failures.

Zita also pointed out that I do not relax atall. Both myself and my husband never do anything to relax.

This was all good stuff and areas of my fertility I had never considered. I can action points from her review which is brilliant.Image

She also gave me and my husband a tonne of her fabulous vitamins, including her new one, Inositol, which supports ovarian function and I think it also aids weight loss! Bonus! Also she gave me a relaxation CD to do for 20 minutes per day.

Best of all, she has booked me in to see a Hypnotherapist. I cannot wait!!! Never done anything like that before and I’m so excited.

It has been a great experience and I’m blessed to have been given the opportunity to meet her.

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